When Feeling Emotional, Ask Yourself This

Strong emotions are often a result of stored energy finally being released, not necessarily the situation at hand.

My ex-boyfriend and I once had an argument about one of his close friends. She had gotten really touchy with him while they were both drunk, and even though he refused her advances, it bothered me a lot.

He kept claiming that he would never do anything with her and that I was the only person he wanted. He told me that I had to trust him. I asked him to distance himself from her because her advances made me uncomfortable, not to mention she is also in a relationship.

In that moment, I was so angry at her and even more frustrated at my ex-boyfriend that none of his points were getting through to me. I knew it was extreme of me to ask him to cut off one of his closest friends, but she bothered me so much that it seemed like the only option at the time.

The point of this long-winded story was to get you all into my high-emotion mental state when I was having this conversation with my ex-boyfriend. I believe that my feelings of jealousy and mistrust were justified due to the situation, but the extremity of those emotions was way past what the situation itself demanded. This deep hurt was a result of stored emotions from my past.

The reasons I was angry at the situation were:

1. She had a boyfriend and I felt that it was wrong for her…